if you wna truly love + heal, you have to completely destroy everything you know abt the two -- bc it is most likely ... absolutely certain, really ... that yr understanding of these words is at least in part based in the way they have been constructed to best serve structures founded upon + sustained by violence
part of this has to come from a better, less superficial understanding of how language functions -- language is not simply a concise delivery mechanism for meaning; language has been n actively is constructed in order to serve a social purpose, n in its use + construction it also constructs n informs social reality -- words + their definitions are inextricably linked to the social realities they exist within
that is: language can [n does] function as a system of violence